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So, let me run something by you guys ...
Oct. 23rd, 2009 10:19 amI'm contemplating my requests for Yuletide (no, signups aren't open yet, but it's never too early to start planning, right?).
In pretty much all of the fandoms I'm requesting, I have some very definite "do not want" preferences on pairings. What I'm trying to figure out is how to phrase it so that I don't make my writer feel like she's been slapped in the face. I wouldn't normally be stressing about it too much (in the bigger fandom exchanges, I don't) but if there are only 3 people writing in a fandom and they're all big X/Y shippers, is it going to be too much of a blow if my request says "Please no X/Y"? (In one teeny fandom, all the fic I've ever seen is X/Y pairing that I don't want; I think that's the one I'm most worried about.) I don't know if it would be better or worse to explain why -- that I have an incest squick, that I don't want to see canon couple Y/Z broken up, or whatnot -- or just to ask for no X/Y or ... well, I just don't know. Where do you think the line falls between a polite request and a request that bashes someone's preferences?
In pretty much all of the fandoms I'm requesting, I have some very definite "do not want" preferences on pairings. What I'm trying to figure out is how to phrase it so that I don't make my writer feel like she's been slapped in the face. I wouldn't normally be stressing about it too much (in the bigger fandom exchanges, I don't) but if there are only 3 people writing in a fandom and they're all big X/Y shippers, is it going to be too much of a blow if my request says "Please no X/Y"? (In one teeny fandom, all the fic I've ever seen is X/Y pairing that I don't want; I think that's the one I'm most worried about.) I don't know if it would be better or worse to explain why -- that I have an incest squick, that I don't want to see canon couple Y/Z broken up, or whatnot -- or just to ask for no X/Y or ... well, I just don't know. Where do you think the line falls between a polite request and a request that bashes someone's preferences?