Day 3: In your own space, talk about a fannish opinion you hold that has changed over time. Ha, well .... Shipping. Shipping has come for me. My early years in fandom, I was very profoundly set on Canon, Canon Only and also very set on gen; I read explicit fic once in a blue moon and generally only for canon couples, not really as a point of morality or anything, but just because I wasn't interested. I also very clearly remember my surprise the first time I encountered an OT3 fic, and furthermore one that simply had the characters having a casual threesome with no particular HEA to it. I was Confuse.
I used to read pairings mostly in self-defense because what I really wanted was gen, but it was harder to find. I'm honestly not entirely clear on when that started changing and I really started shipping things. I remember the first explicit fic I wrote (it was
this one, for Stargate SG-1) but it wasn't really shippy so much as exploring different pairings in an AU. I guess that I kind of meandered through various shades of reading pairings I didn't ship just to get the Feels, and then actually kind of shipping it, and I'd say that it was in Agent Carter that I first started
really shipping things, where I actually wanted to explore the pairing dynamics apart from their gen dynamic, and genuinely wanted them to be together at the end of the fic.
.... No, wait! A quick dive into my AO3 history reminded me that Highlander was the first fandom I did that in! I did actually ship the Methos/Duncan/Amanda triad, as an OT3 and in various sub-combinations, although the nature of the canon being what it was, I don't think I really thought of them as an HEA type pairing - but I did ship it. (Hence the Highlander icon on this post.)
My secondary answer here is just that I've gotten way more live and let live, ship and let ship about stuff. I used to be a lot judgier, but I think I've made way too many Problematic canon and shipping choices at this point to have any sort of a leg to stand on when it comes to judging other people's, and I no longer want to anyway. (TBH, it was watching judgmentalism take off on Tumblr in the mid-2010s that really made me change. I mean, I was never anything like that bad, but there's nothing like seeing some of your own opinions reflected through a warped lens to really make you reassess yourself. I think I used to reflect negative opinions around me in a performative kind of way - judge the right things so people know you're Not Into That - and as I've gotten more confident about my own opinions and secure in my own position in fandom, I haven't wanted to do that anymore.)
I guess I've gotten better at separating how I really feel from how I feel like I
should feel, and also much better at realizing that it costs 0 cents and makes a much better fandom experience for everyone, including me, to simply learn to shut up some of the time.