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I don't know if it's just me...?
I'm noticing more fic journals being friend-locked lately, due to all the LJ kerfluffle.
This puts me in a quandary, because I'm *really* not comfortable asking to be friended just so I can read someone's stories. I've done it exactly once so far, because there was a story that I really, really wanted to read, and I dithered for awhile before finally piping up with a small, meek friending request. But I'm very uncomfortable asking someone to friend me if I don't personally know them. It feels kind of like wandering into someone's living room, noticing that all the doors to the rooms are closed, and asking if I can open their bedroom door and go through all their stuff. *g*
Of course, I'm sort of choosy about who I friend ... not that I have any kind of system; I like keeping my friend list short and manageable, so it usually ends up being people I know personally, or people who regularly post stuff I find interesting (fic, recs, etc). I've gotten a friending request once or twice, and I've answered back that I don't friend by request, but I don't post much that's locked anyway (and, when I do, usually there's a specific reason). I certainly don't mind people friending me, but specific requests to friend back feel kind of presumptive -- which makes me very reluctant to make that kind of presumption on someone else.
Is that just me? Or do other people feel that way too?
This puts me in a quandary, because I'm *really* not comfortable asking to be friended just so I can read someone's stories. I've done it exactly once so far, because there was a story that I really, really wanted to read, and I dithered for awhile before finally piping up with a small, meek friending request. But I'm very uncomfortable asking someone to friend me if I don't personally know them. It feels kind of like wandering into someone's living room, noticing that all the doors to the rooms are closed, and asking if I can open their bedroom door and go through all their stuff. *g*
Of course, I'm sort of choosy about who I friend ... not that I have any kind of system; I like keeping my friend list short and manageable, so it usually ends up being people I know personally, or people who regularly post stuff I find interesting (fic, recs, etc). I've gotten a friending request once or twice, and I've answered back that I don't friend by request, but I don't post much that's locked anyway (and, when I do, usually there's a specific reason). I certainly don't mind people friending me, but specific requests to friend back feel kind of presumptive -- which makes me very reluctant to make that kind of presumption on someone else.
Is that just me? Or do other people feel that way too?