Incredibly nosy TMI poll

[sholio]

So ... I made a comment elsewhere that got me thinking about sex in fanfic, and then I started having one of those "... am I the only one?" sort of ponderings, and so I made an extremely nosy TMI poll about it. If you don't read explicit fanfic, this will probably not be at all interesting to you.

The thing is, written sex doesn't turn me on. At all, really -- there are extremely rare instances where that's not the case, but as a general rule, no. But I know from reading comments elsewhere that this is definitely not true of everybody. So I'm curious ... am I a total fandom outlier, or not?

I've got "detailed results" turned off, so the only person who can see who answered what is me (though the graphs are visible to everyone). If you'd like to answer anonymously in the comments instead, so that even *I* can't see who you are, that's perfectly fine! I swear I'm not asking out of prurient curiosity; it's not like I'm sitting around wondering "Hey, does so & so on my f'list wank off to internet porn?" Like I said above, I'm just kinda curious how the numbers would stack up. Are there just a couple people who are, like me, unmoved by porn? Or the majority? Inquiring minds are very curious! (I thought about doing this f'locked, but total anonymity wouldn't be an option that way, and I wanted to leave that option available to people who wanted it.) And obviously, if you are not comfortable answering this poll, please don't!

[Poll #1521589]

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Porn in fanfic can and does turn me on, but most of it doesn't (ie: the vast majority of porn battle entries do nothing for me). It totally depends on how the porn is written (I find more realistic sex much hotter than fantasy sex) and how the characters are handled (specifically, are they treated respectfully?). But I also find certain not-specifically-sexual H/C tropes turn me on, which I admit sometimes makes me think I'm a freak of nature. And, while only a subset of porny fic turns me on, I do sometimes seek it out for that purpose. Also, I'm more likely to be turned on quicker/easier by porn with women involved, but I also find m/m slash porn is much more likely to contain whatever it is that hits my buttons, which is frustrating.

As for telling the author? Heck no. I'll comment about the fic sometimes and occasionally about the sex scene, but I find it really awkwardly inappropriate to tell the author "your story sent me to my bunk" and I hate when I've gotten comments of that nature. TMI!

[friendshipper.livejournal.com]

I'll comment about the fic sometimes and occasionally about the sex scene, but I find it really awkwardly inappropriate to tell the author "your story sent me to my bunk" and I hate when I've gotten comments of that nature. TMI!

LOL! I always kinda did wonder about that -- how serious people are when they say that, and what it's like to get a comment of that nature. One thing I found interesting about the responses to the above poll is that it seems like the majority of those sorts of comments are more metaphorical/polite than serious, which was something that I hadn't realized.

Anyway, this is interesting -- thanks for the reply! FWIW, from hanging around in h/c circles, I don't think you're the only person to be turned on by non-sexual h/c by a long shot. *g*

[(Anonymous)]

I just connected that commenting anonymously = no comment response email. Doh.

I always kinda did wonder about that -- how serious people are when they say that, and what it's like to get a comment of that nature.

I have at least one person who will leave comments like that which I think are serious (they are along the lines of "must go find my husband now") sort of thing. I think the "that's hot" comment type is fine, since that could mean any number of things, but the "be in my bunk" variety is much more specific and makes my skin crawl. But I also really don't like PDA of any sort and tend to prefer that people have any kind of sex life they desire, so long as they don't need me to see it/hear about it.

Anyway, this is interesting -- thanks for the reply! FWIW, from hanging around in h/c circles, I don't think you're the only person to be turned on by non-sexual h/c by a long shot. *g*

Yeah, that doesn't surprise me, if for no other reason than looking at the popularity of the genre. I still feel like it's a very private-in-my-head thing, that those sorts of things shouldn't turn me on on some moral level (even though I don't think it's bad for other people to have that kind of kink, just unsure about it for myself).

[brownbetty]

Yes, this. I would never say “I'll be in my bunk” because to me it means “I'm going to go masturbate now,” which is something which I presume most people do not actually want to know, nor do I particularly want most people to know.