Er, spoiler for the end of "Sleepless in Seattle"? But one of the things I liked about that movie was how Mr. Bland (Bill Pullman) proved to be quite sweet and wise after all when Meg Ryan admitted she was attracted to the other guy and he said quite composedly that he'd rather not be with someone who -- what was it he said -- didn't want him, or would always be wondering, and they both deserved better than that.